Honest, meaningful conversations with the guidance and support of a non-judgmental healthcare professional.
Choosing to separate or divorce is a major life decision, and one of the biggest ones you will make in your life. There will be a multitude of thoughts and feelings racing through your mind and heart, logistics to understand and tackle and decisions to be made. Counseling is a process that helps couples with this process. It is also a therapeutic forum to understand "what happened", "how to behave right now", "bring closure to the relationship" and "determine how to be in the aftermath of divorce". These questions are explored from each individual's perspective, needs and wants. Often when children are involved more issues are addressed and more decisions need to be made. A myriad of complexities can ensue, and counseling is a place where parents can understand the issues their children will go through, prepare for the difficult questions and make good decisions as to protect and maintain the health and well-being of their children.
Choosing to end a legal relationship is more difficult than starting one. There are lawyers, mediators and in general, the legal system to deal with. The process can be confusing and daunting. Being informed and equipped to deal with the legalities is essential. Counseling helps empower you to work efficiently and wisely with the legal process.
Choosing to separate is not choosing to divorce. When a couple is having great difficulties and contemplating divorce, separation is the first step in the process. Living separately, whether it is on a different floor in the marital home, or in a different home, separation is a time devoted to understanding yourself (your feelings, thoughts, needs and wants), exploring your feelings and thoughts towards your partner, and for experiencing living separate and alone. This is a time to gain clarity and ask yourself these challenging questions about your marriage. The length of separation varies from couple to couple, and typically ranges between 3 and 12 months. Consistent counseling is maintained throughout the separation. This serves as a platform for honest, meaningful conversations with the guidance and support of a non-judgmental healthcare professional.